“If I had the ability to go back and do it all over…”
We hear or say this a lot. It’s passed down from an older family member, mentor, or random person you’ve somehow intertwined with and sparked up a conversation with on an airplane.
Airplane rides, by the way, are amazing places to really have in depth conversations with people. We let it all hang ou tend to open up more to those we don’t know. Our fear of judgment is significantly reduced with someone we’ll probably never see again. It makes sense why writing in a blog helps so many people out there, but I digress…
How different would your life be if you were given the information or knowledge you have now – then? I had a variation of this conversation with a friend the other day. My take on it was this:
“If I knew then, what I know now, I wouldn’t be who I am today.”
A very powerful statement when you look at it. Go back to the younger version of me, and give him a book or guide, anything, on ways that I could improve myself, understand my thought process, how I behave. Give old-me the resources to understand how to properly interact with, respect and appreciate the personal and professional relationships in my life, and… I’d more than likely throw it all in the trash. Why?
It’s All About Perspective
Well, it’s just not that important to young and reckless-me. It’s not that I didn’t take those same attributes into consideration in all the relationships in my life. I had a genuine respect and admiration for my life and wanted to find happiness.
So why would I turn a cold shoulder to this wealth of knowledge? The answer is that I wouldn’t have appreciated or valued it, because I would not have went through the trials and tribulations to see things for what they are today.
I would not have had the ability to learn from my mistakes. Past-me was up-and-coming, full of piss and vinegar, and not to mention very successful (or so he thought) with women. What in the hell would he need to know more about? Well, everything.
Thanks For Everything
There is no success without failure. Ask any truly successful person about there failures, or read any of their biographies and you will find the adversity. We hear feel better about the successes, but our failures help carve us into who we are just as well. Who we are today is a sum of all the decisions we’ve made in our lives.
While Past-me would could have benefited from the material I’d dump in his lap (and which situation’s to avoid all together) he wouldn’t have a full handle on the gravity of it. They say when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
Truths for Consideration
1) We can’t dwell. Backwards or Forwards. What’s done is done, and we cannot change the past. Every moment you spend in the past, or daydreaming of the future is a moment being wasted in your present life.
2) We can use what we’ve experienced and the experience of others to better our lives. If experiences as a stepping stone or map for how we approach different situations we face now, and one’s that may arise – we really maximize our potential to live in the now. There’s also nothing quite like shortening your learning curve by linking up with someone who’s been through the ups and downs of it all.
3) Realize that everybody falls. It’s a part of life. Nobody is perfect, including yourself, and expecting that perfect dream to come true is only setting yourself up for failure when reality sinks in. When you start seeing things for what they are, it’s much easier to get where you are going, and start charting your course.
Looking Back With Respect
Hindsight is always 20/20, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to exercise the proper foresight in all that we do from this point on. How you go about it is up to you. There are very simple ways to learn this and practice it in your everyday life.
Past-me experienced enough to get to the point where Current-me is today. And with that comes the maturity, knowledge, consideration, and value for what it is I’ve set out to do. What types of issues have you overcome in the past? What might you be going through now? If you have problem or situation you are faced with, and not sure how to handle, in any facet of your life, I’d be happy to provide some input and support. Shoot me an email or leave a comment.
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