I used to view the circumstances in my life as either a source of happiness or a source or pain. Whether it had do with my personal relationships, finances, or my own health – if things weren’t going so great (or as I wanted them to) it would take a toll on me.
The Price of Admission
The lows were very low. The high’s were high, but fleeting.
I discovered that my life’s course was very similar to being on a roller coaster.
I was there. I was present. Strapped in and ready to go. Anxious. Excited.
The only problem was that I was a passenger on this ride.
Rather than embracing the good and the bad, I let it rule me.
It’s easy for us to get distracted by the day and let the events around us take over or run our thoughts. Our feelings, emotions, and beliefs can be easily altered.
It’s very easy to get angry, shout, and yell about it all.
We’ve all been there, in traffic, at home, and dealing with our children. Frustration takes hold when we’re in the habit of being reactive.
Get in the Drivers Seat
Learning how to manage your own thoughts, feelings, and most importantly – emotions, is where the real change begins. Responsible individuals exercise self-control.
It’s a lot easier to do than one would think, and the payoff is immense.
Take the simple act of being happy. A lot of times we tend to look to our spouses, friends, or even jobs or business results as a source for happiness.
While a healthy relationship and a good day at the office can certainly aid you in feeling good, real happiness can only come from within.
Think about that.
Who Do You Love?
In order to start shifting our mindset we have to look inward first.
We have to love ourselves before we can be loved.
We must discover internal happiness first to see it and appreciate it in the marvels of the world.
Relying on outside forces to fill a void is only setting yourself up for feeling resentment. It places you at the mercy of what you cannot control.
Don’t Get Hijacked
Now, our significant others, co-workers, and events of the day can certainly bring us grief, we all know that.
But did you know that can only happen if you let it?
We actually have a choice of being moved or being shaken by what we encounter.
We cannot eliminate the adversity or difficulties entirely, so the next best thing we can do is embrace them.
Don’t be ruled by them, accept them.
The philosophy here is learning to identify how something (or someone) affects you, and then disciplining yourself to recognize it in real-time.
Become aware enough to identify when a negative thought or emotion overrides you, and you can change it for the better.
Start New Habits
Don’t take the initiative to do what it takes and you’ll watch the world pass you by.
Watch the love of your life walk out the door.
Watch the promotion go elsewhere, or your investments dwindle away.
It’s all a matter of taking that first step.
I’ve had the pleasure of working with people who have taken that first step and can truly say they’re already one up on those who are just waiting around idle for someone else or something to do it for them.
With small and practical adjustments in our daily routines and beliefs, we can make drastic changes. Little corrections to what we’ve been doing wrong.
Nobody is going to change your life for you.
The real change you may be looking for is much closer than you think.
Now I will pass it on to you… Are you a reactive or proactive type of person? What have you done to initiate change in your life? Where did you get your inspiration from? Leave a comment below and let me know.
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